It’s been a long time since I’ve posted. 9 months to be exact. Those of you who follow me, know that I’m very active on Twitter and on other social media sites so this blog has basically developed a bad case of the cobwebs. I’ll blow the cobwebs off for now and write a little something here for old-time’s sake. Well it’s been a great year… I continue to be amazed by my children who are doing things I can only dream of and who, every day teach me something about my past, present, and future. It’s been a transformative few years to say the least and, in many ways, I think I’ve learned more in the past 3 years than I did in the 42 prior to that! I read a psych book recently where the author contended (and had some studies to back him up) that American males actually mature after age 43…he asserted that “it” finally hits males somewhere in their early 40’s. Maturity levels rise, stress eases, patience blossoms, etc… well I believe him! That’s all I have to say.
I also believe that I’ve learned so much from my children. They teach me every day that life is about so much more than what I thought it was about. Like most parents, I think my kids are the greatest. After all, isn’t that what being a parent is about…doting on about your kids. Well I feel that God has blessed me so richly in that department and continues to bless me with amazing children who teach me much.
My oldest, Brandon, is a Junior in college and recently finished up a Summer fellowship at Clemson in Computer Science. His calm demeanor and disciplined work-ethic always remind me that that slow and steady is a very positive way of doing things. My son Zachary, freshly back from a summer mission trip in Eastern Europe is making his own way in college and showing me the value of love, compassion, and understanding those who are different. My daughter Meg whose passion for acting has, among other things, won her a spot on a PBS kids show demonstrates how one’s passions in life will always pay off if you try hard enough. My step-son Adrian who just began kindergarten reminds me every day of the need for order in life and my littlest daughter Piper who will turn 2 early next year, reinforces within me how wondrous and amazing life truly can be when seen from the eyes of an innocent child. To her there is no hate, no malice, no game…to Piper there is just living life to the fullest and exploring and enjoying every day.
My kids teach me every day. I’m very thankful for them for they are the ones who truly teach me what life is about!
The fight for freedom comes in many forms. It comes from our brave soliders who serve our country here and abroad, from an author who publishes their book regardless of what people say, from the woman that will not sit at the back of the bus, from the kid that gets beat up because of his orientation, from a woman who gets persecuted because of the way she believe…from that kid in the back of the classroom who is different…from a preacher who has a dream. That’s the great thing about this country…we have the freedom to say, worship, and be equally human. Many, many people of all creeds, careers, colors, and persuasions have died to keep that freedom alive. Don’t ever forget it and don’t ever stop fighting for it.
– Michael W. Posey, 2012
Happy New Year!!! Welcome to 2012 everyone! Well this year should be interesting right? It’s a new year and if you believe the popular culture and myth surrounding the year 2012, it’s the last year we all have here on Earth! Yikes!! Wow…that came quickly. I haven’t even finished the front yard landscaping!
Actually, I’m not here to debate whether or not the world will, in fact, meet it’s demise, nor do I want to get started down that path. But the fact that it is 2012 and we are now inundated with so many prophecies, movies, songs, images, etc… about 2012 being the end, caused me to think…
…what IF this were my last year on Earth and I knew it? What if? Would I do anything differently? Would I act differently? What kinds of experiences would I seek out? Would I be open to new ideas and experiences? In other words, how would I live my last days? I could get specific here and list all of the things I would want to do, but I don’t want to bore you so suffice it to say that I would definitely LIVE! In fact, I would do those things that I’ve always wanted to do but have been putting off. I would be the person I always wanted to be. I wouldn’t be fearful of some things and/or waste time on others.
Ok…so this got me thinking further… why would I do those things that I mentioned above only if I knew this would be my last year? Why aren’t I doing those things anyway?? Why aren’t I pursuing my dreams, my passions, and being the person that I truly want to be? Why aren’t I doing it NOW? What am I waiting for?
So what does this all mean to you? It simply means that you should enjoy the moment…be IN the moment and let it take you…define you…be part of you. What you experience today you should embrace, take in as much as possible and be the person you truly want to be using what you experience. Don’t be afraid to learn new and, perhaps different view-points and knowledge. Don’t be afraid to seek out new and, perhaps heretofore, unthinkable experiences. Take what you want/need from those differing opinions and experiences and mold them into something that uniquely serves you. That is uniquely yours. It’s important in life to be both living in the moment and planning for one’s future…to do one or the other will not completely serve you. To do both will help you live a happy and prosperous life. Regardless of what others tell us, we truly don’t know when the end will be. When our own, individual end will be. Because life is a crap shoot, we must live life to the fullest…suck everything you can out of life and enjoy it…be it…consume it…contribute to it…and in the words of the famous Nike slogan – just do it!!! What are you waiting for? Live!!!
Like I’ve talked about in previous posts, in life we all have mosaics to build…build yours any way you want to using what you have learned and experienced. Who knows when the world will end but until then, you might as well live!
My best for the new year,
I admit it. I’m in a unique position. Well at least to me it’s unique. With 4 children of my own, and a step-son of differing ages, I have a front-row seat to life and a front-row seat to many lessons learned! Yep. I said it…I learn so much from my kids. They are amazing teachers! In the past couple of months I have had my oldest child complete his first year of college while my youngest child was just born!
On the one end of the spectrum, my oldest son Brandon completed his first year of college with flying colors. He’s majoring in Computer Science and Mathematics and, although his courses were grueling, he stuck it out, had the discipline he needed, and sacrificed to complete his first year with a phenomenal grade-point average. I see in my son, patience, discipline, and the wherewithal to see something through. I admire him for that and am reminded every day of how important those traits are in a person.
My youngest daughter, Piper was just born and is such a joy for all of our family. As a baby, she sees everything with a smile and wide eyes. She takes it all in and tries to make sense of it all. You can see it in her amazing little expressions…you can hear it in her coos and vocal sounds. She represents what we all love …the innocence of life…the wonderment of our world. That untainted wonderment and excitement about life and all that it has to offer is a side of us that we all should relish and be one with from time to time.
These two milestones this year have changed me in ways that I cannot possibly describe. I am truly blessed. My son, Zack is a senior in high school this year and is plotting his way in the world after school…his faith and his convictions lead him and I admire him for that. My daughter Meg is just beginning her high school career and is such a talented actress and twirler that I see in her how to follow your passions in life and do the things you love. My step-son Adrian is busy taking in all that pre-school has to offer and his ability to see spatial concepts reminds me to periodically stop and take a look around and see how things fit together and what they mean.
In life, there will be turmoil and there will be hurt and pain. Looking through the eyes of children can ofttimes see us through and give us perspective. My life has had its share of stormy weather and with people throwing negatives but with the strength and insight my children have given me, I’ve been truly blessed to be able to move through the clouds of yesteryear and be in the spot I’m in now. It’s a spot I relish and one for which I am truly thankful.
I love you kids! Thanks for teaching me the right stuff!
I’m a big music buff. I love music of all genres and as a pop-culture & communication professor, I know that music is a very personal thing. The listener hears what they want to hear…they take what they want to take from it and make it their own. Internalize it. Use it. People, in a sense, “own” the song. One person’s favorite song might be another person’s white noise but what matters is that everyone’s interpretation is unique.
The other day I was driving down the road and heard a Craig Morgan song entitled “This Ain’t Nothing” (Songwriters: Kerry Kurt Phillips and Chris DuBois). I immediately took to the song and as I listened I got goose-bumps because something deep inside me related to the words. The song is about a man who just had a tornado tear down his home. He’s asked by a reporter what he’s going to do and the old man says “This ain’t nothing” and begins to recount how he’s lost everyone that was dear to him. Father, brother, wife, etc… and how a stupid tornado wasn’t anything compared to the loss he’s suffered throughout his many years.
One way to interpret this song is to think that this old man is jaded. That he’s ready to give up and throw in the towel and that he’s cynical having lost every person that is dear to him. You could interpret this as a “who-cares-I’m-bitter-and-giving-up kind of attitude.” This would be a sad way of looking at things though wouldn’t it?
The way that I evidently internalized the song (as seemingly indicated by my goosebumps) was one of – “some things just aren’t worth getting upset about.” What I heard was the old man saying, in effect, that there are more important things in life. I heard him saying “It’s the people…the humanity…your loved ones” that are what matter. This got me thinking that perhaps in this song filled with tales of loss and woe, there is a motivational message.
The simple words tell the message…
“He said I learned at an early age,
There’s things that matter and there’s things that don’t
So if you’re waiting here for me to cry,
I hate to disappoint you boy, but I won’t”
Put another way- life is short, bad things will happen, we will lose at times, we do bad things sometimes, and people do bad things to us sometimes. But no matter what we move forward. The man in the song is old. The song wouldn’t work with a young guy telling the story because unfortunately many of us don’t realize these lessons until we are older. Experience takes time and by the time that we realize that “This ain’t nothing” we have spent way too much time worrying that “this is something.”
My challenge to you is to heed the old man’s advice in this song now and realize that most of the things we fret over in life “aren’t nothing.” Embrace those that you love and hold them dear because they are what matter and those relationships are what’s important. You don’t know when, for whatever reason, they will go away. Enjoy life and live life to the fullest and make your life and the lives around you SOMETHING!
Ok…so you can see it has been a number of months since I’ve posted here. I’m a regular tweeter and post to Facebook constantly. But here…my blog…the place where the muse is supposed to come out regularly and spill fourth deep thought and provocative commentary…here on my blog…the muse seems to be on hiatus. Not sure why but micro-blogging on Facebook and tweeting my random thoughts has become the venue for my muse lately. You’ll find me on Twitter under @drmikeposey and on Facebook. Until the muse returns from it’s mysterious hiatus…I’ll see you on twitter.
Waa waaa waaa…yea yea I know what you’ll say – “But I hate doing that…I’ll do it later” Well the truth is that when you have something that you really don’t want to do – it’s best if you do what Nike preaches and JUST DO IT!
In every-day life there are those things that, for whatever reason, we absolutely hate to do and we will do anything not to have to do them. There are no magic bullets for making crappy things less crappy but I can tell you that if you scope out the crappy things (those things you hate doing) and you know what you are up against you can make a plan to tackle them early on. It doesn’t have to be an elaborate plan but you should at least target those things during the day that you hate and resolve yourself to do them first! Do not put them off!
“But if I do them at the start of the day then my day will be crappy”
Well this doesn’t have to be the case. It’s all in how you look at it. Think of it this way…if you do the crappy things first then they are done. Kaput. Over. Finished! The rest of your day can be spent doing things that you don’t hate. Perhaps the rest of the day can be spent doing things that you actually enjoy! Imagine that! See…the problem with most of us, including me, is that we tend to put those things that we hate off until the end of the day or for another time and then the time from “now until then” is not as good. We don’t enjoy it. In fact, it makes our day worse knowing that we are going to have to do something we hate later. We worry or fret or constantly think about that one thing that we hate that we know we are going to have to do.
If, instead, we “get er done” at the start of our day we are free to live a day without worry or fret and without being constantly reminded that we have to trudge through something we hate at the end. The freedom that comes from dealing with the hard stuff…the hated stuff at the start instead of the end is amazing. Try it sometime and see what happens. You’ll be surprised that you will want to tackle the crap at the start of the day rather than at the end. It’s habit forming…trust me!
Lately people have been asking me if I have my quotes written down anywhere. Well I usually post them on Twitter when I think of them but I’ve decided to post them on a new page here on the site – “Dr. Mike’s Quick Mojo” Find it in the “Pages” column to the right of the screen. Enjoy!
Today’s Quick Tip to Motivate Yourself…
(1) Write Down Your Goal
(2) Build Check Points
(3) Give Yourself A Reward At The End!