You dont’ have to have that perma-smile!
Lately I’ve heard from folks who say that this motivation stuff is all bunk! Yep…that’s right…they think that folks who espouse motivational techniques, etc…are all full of it. Well everyone has a right to their opinion so I take no offense whatsoever to those who hate the kinds of things I talk about here or in my shows.
This got me thinking though…WHY do people dislike someone that talks about positive things? WHY would they dislike something or be suspect of someone because they are trying to be happy or help others to be happy?
I think it comes from the fact that some people have preconceived notions about anything with the term “motivation” in it. What I mean by this is that there are some misconceptions of what it means to be motivated or what it means to help motivate. These misconceptions exist and keep people from listening to, heeding, or even getting near anything that is “motivational.” Additionally, these misconceptions may actually hinder someone who seeks out motivational information and inspiration because they may hold themselves to a “motivational standard” that no one can possibly achieve. Either way, these misconceptions keep folks from truly realizing the power of their motivational mojo!
After thinking about this, I thought of a couple of misconceptions that exist out there. I’ve listed a couple of them here.
“To be truly motivated one must always be happy, perky, cheery, positive, etc…”
This is simply not true. We are human beings who are equipped with a wonderful emotional capacity. Our emotions are not always happy, perky, cheery, etc… We as humans are not wired that way. We are wired to have the whole range of emotions be them good, bad, or ugly. Like it or not, even the most motivated person on earth gets sad, mad, depressed, etc… If we tell ourselves that we aren’t motivated because we get depressed once in a while or we lose our temper or what have you, then we will never feel completely fulfilled and I would contend that we’ll never feel completely motivated!
“To motivate others you must be all touchy feely and group huggy.”
This is definitely not true. Being motivated and motivating others doesn’t mean that you have to have one big group hug or that you have to be open to doing anything. We all have preferences in life and everyone has their own style. Remember when I talked about we all have things that make us tick? The same goes here. There is a huge misconception that in order to motivate people that you must have some sort of “hook” or a big-fancy-jumping-around activity. Many motivational people do this. That’s great. No harm in that. I’ve done it. We all have done it or sat through that kind of thing. By the same token, however, many motivational people don’t do a darn thing but impart their thoughts and feelings and wisdom. These people are just as motivational as the ones who get up and jump up and down.
Why? Because everyone is motivated in different ways. Motivation, like much of life, is subjective. Motivation is in the eyes or ears of the beholder! One person may need jumping up and down and group hugs to feel motivated at the physical level. Another person may simply internalize the words of wisdom spoken by someone as their motivation. It’s all good!
“There is one best way to motivate people and (whomever is doing it) knows it.”
Wow. What can I say to this misconception. It is simply not true. My great-granny as well as many others always said, “Honey, there is more than one way to skin a mule!” With motivation, Granny was right on! The previous paragraph relates so much to this misconception as well.
Well…those are some of the misconceptions that exist out there that keep people from seeking, or getting the full effects from their motivational mojos. Check out episode 17 of the Motivational Mojo Show for more on this topic!