Today we will be turning in our hymnals to the book of Chumbawamba. Yes that’s right that famous punk band that is known the world over for their inspiring song “I get knocked down – but I get up again.” Although at first one might think that this pithy song is about drinking…there are lots of references to drinking beer and cider and things…and the video (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_lJIjdajBww) takes place in a bar…and the song “Danny Boy” referenced in the lyrics is a famous Irish drinking song…YES you indeed may be thinking that this song is about drinking. Well I’m here to tell you that it can be about motivation as well. Right now you are also probably wondering: “Why oh why Dr. Mike are you even babbling about this?” You may be puzzled about now. Well if you are…let me dispel that thought.
You see, I am an avid music collector and have thousands of songs on my iPod as well as hundreds of CD’s and cassette tapes and even more vinyl albums and even more 45’s! In other words, I’ve been collecting music since I was a little tiny kid way back in the – dare I say it – 1970’s! Heck, I even have some 8-tracks man…but we won’t discuss those. 8-track = bad idea! Bad idea.
Anyway, this all leads up to the other day when I was listening to my iPod on random selection and Chumbawamba came blazing through my earbuds. WOW, I thought! What an inspirational song! Well at least the chorus is. Actually all of it is when you read into it. This song sums up one of my main tenets of life – when something bad happens – get up and try again – don’t give up. For those of you who haven’t heard the Chumbwamba ditty – the main chorus of the song goes like this:
“I get knocked down but I get up again. You’re never going to keep me down.”
This is it folks! This is the message…don’t let anyone or anything get you down. We’re all faced with things in life that knock us down whether physically or emotionally, we as humans will have things throughout our lives that hit us hard and cause us to spin into a tizzy…out of control. In essence, our motivational mojos will, from time to time, be hurt, dazed and confused, and/or simply knocked down. When this happens we can react in many different ways.
The first way in which we can react is by accepting defeat. We can wallow in our pain and sorrow and let it get the best of us. Obviously too much wallowing though can be destructive to ourselves and to others. Don’t get me wrong…as I have said many times before, everyone needs to be sad and do some wallowing from time to time – it’s part of the human experience and part of our emotional coping mechanism, but if we continually wallow or refuse to “let it go” or to effectively not “get back up again” then our mojos will never again be motivated and our lives will be in a downward spiral.
The second thing we can do is to over-compensate. We can ignore the hurt and pain and not spend one second wallowing. We get out there and we do “get back up again” but we do it so fast that oftentimes we forget why we “got back up” in the first place. We forget what we’re fighting for. The problem, or issue or “thing” is effectively swept under the rug and we move quickly to ignore and forget.
The third thing we can do is become bitter. Plain and simple we become bitter and jaded and turn of.
While each of these these responses may be normal, I would contend that they are not the best way to maximize and keep your motivational mojo healthy. Taking advice from the sages of Chumbawamba is very important and, if done properly, can really keep your motivational mojo pumping! What I mean by this is that when you “get knocked down” you should take a moment (this depends on who you are and the extent of the “knock”…may be minutes, hours, days or weeks) gather your thoughts about what happened. Experience the sadness, the anger, the hurt, etc…let it become part of you and then …
GET BACK UP AGAIN! Yes…experience all the emotions and reflect on it but that experiencing and reflection needs to have a finite end! If it doesn’t then you will wallow in being knocked down forever and your motivational mojo will never be the same. You’ll never be able to operate a maximum motivational capacity! You won’t be able to motivate yourself nor will you be able to motivate others.
Chumbawamba had it right…don’t let anyone get you down! What you should take from this is what I’ve been saying many times over…YOU are the one in charge of your life. YOU are in charge of getting back up and moving on! When bad things happen, deal with them and take the time you need…then move on. Life is so short and wallowing too long is a waste of that precious time. Wallowing helps heal but too much wallowing hurts! You are in control of what you do when you get knocked for the figurative loop! It’s YOU YOU YOU! Bad situations will come and go but if you resolve to get back up again and never let anyone or any situation get you down, then you will ultimately be completely content in any situation because you will be able to live your life on your terms and with the inner peace to know that you did it your way regardless of the situation.
Listen to the Motivational Mojo Show for more on this topic as well as others and if you want someone to come in and speak to your group or company, etc…don’t hesitate to contact me!
Until next time, keep your motivational mojo pumping!
It’s 2008 and it’s time to get that motivational mojo pumping and doing some good! With the new year comes the inevitable resolutions that we all make.
“I won’t eat chocolate this year.”
“I promise not to spend 23.5 hours a day on the computer and .5 hours a day on the can.”
“I will organize the garage this year”
or the famous…
“I’m going to exercise and go on a diet this year”
This is what we say to ourselves and our loved ones. The fact is that new year’s resolutions aren’t usually worth the breath they were said in. We say them almost out of obligation and tradition. The resolutions are good and usually well-intended; however, they quickly become broken and forgotten.
With this said, I am not going to ask you to resolve that you motivate yourself and others more this year. I’m not going to ask you that you be happy this year. I’m not going to ask you that you keep a positive attitude this year.
I’m simply going to ask you to be YOU. Be true to yourself. If you like chocolate…eat it. If you don’t want to work out – don’t. If you want a messy garage then enjoy the mess. Just be you darn it!
This is the simple truth to maximizing our motivational mojo…being ourselves…not what someone else wants us to be…not what we think we should be…not what we’re obligated to be out of some tradition…but who we REALLY are. Be YOURSELF! Life is filled with times when we have to bend ourselves out of who we really are…for our kids…for our friends…for our employers…this is the cause of much misaligned motivational mojo in our lives. It causes great deals of stress when we are out of our comfort zone…when we are out of our realm…our league…or our zone. Our mojos are out of whack and we feel it. Our whole being – physical and emotional – feel it and it sucks!
This is why most new years resolutions don’t work. We make them over things that are out of our zone or are totally out of whack with who we truly are. This is a recipe for making sure our resolutions quickly fall short. When we make these resolutions that are misaligned with who we truly are we then feel badly when they don’t happen or when we fail to do what we resolved to do. When I say this I do not mean to say that we can’t reach for the stars…we should! BUT, it’s important to realize that we all have levels…kind of like steps…that we need to achieve in order for our mojos to be balanced and able to move on to the next.
So…if you really want to make that new year’s resolution… go ahead and do it…but make one that fits YOU…that really addresses who YOU are…not what some yearly tradition dictates.
Happy New Year!!!!